It’s summertime - a perfect time to talk about
"Love”!!! Not just any kind of love – Unconditional Love. Most of us have
experienced some form of love but not many of us have ever experienced
unconditional love.
Our parents loved us in the best way they could and
if we were lucky – that love was unconditional. However, not all parents are
capable of giving love unconditionally. Parenting is challenging – to say the least. Then there is the
programming passed down through the generations on how to parent via society
and family. I personally think it takes
a really conscious person to develop and follow their own road map to
parenting. That is a topic for another time. For now, we are talking about
unconditional love.
What does loving unconditionally mean? In my most
humble opinion – it is, loving someone without attachment or the desire to
receive anything in return – including returned love. It is giving without any
expectations or ROI (return on investment). Unconditional love is limitless,
boundless and unchanging. Most of the
time we humans - put conditions on love. We say: "I will love you, if….” Or "I
am falling out of love with you because….”
Unconditional love has an element of altruism at it’s’
core. Altruism is a virtue. It is selflessness without the feelings of duty or
the need to be loyal. If we feel it is
our duty to give of ourselves – that is a moral obligation and not
unconditional. Being altruistic is sacrificing
self with no expectation to be compensated, in any way. This also includes any
expectation of becoming enlightened, gaining merit or going to heaven.
I know this is a touchy subject and at the same
time, it must be mentioned. There are people who perform deeds with the above
intentions in mind. I think it is wonderful to give and help and I also believe
we have to be clear about why we are doing something. What is the
motivation? If the intention is to gain
in any way – it cannot be considered unconditional.
So, how do we obtain this seemingly illusive form of
love? First of all, I believe we have to give it to ourselves. We must love all
the aspects of self, including the aspects we don’t like. I know this sounds
hard, and at the same time it is the truth. Our world is a mirror. It mirrors
back to us our beliefs and feelings. If we don’t love ourselves, we will just
get that mirrored back – sometimes in a very big way. We must dig into our
subconscious to ferret out all the ways we sabotage receiving the love we so
desperately seek.
Secondly, we must stop looking to other people to
give us love of any kind. If we consistently look outside of ourselves for
someone else to love us, we will never get it – it’s the mirror again.
Thirdly, we do receive unconditional love. It’s all
around us – we just need to see it. It is our view of the world that causes us
not to see that we are loved. We are –
each of us – a part of the Great Mother and Father, who loves us
unconditionally. It really doesn’t matter what we have or haven’t done – we are
still loved. One group of people isn’t loved any more or less than any other
group of people. Think about it, when it
rains – doesn’t everyone outside get wet?
I know this is a simple example and maybe I should
make it more complex. The point is however, if we look within we will feel the
love that we seek. The Great Mother and
Father live within each of us. They are waiting for us to look in the mirror of
self. When we do this, their love is reflected back to us. It is boundless, altruistic,
unchanging, and unconditional, no strings attached love. We then will begin to see things as they
really are.
Isn’t it time you go within to receive the love you
seek?
See you next month!!!
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